Marriage is a beautiful union which brings a man and woman from different backgrounds together. It is therefore important to make a conscious effort to better it.
Remember your best times.
However, marriage is not a bed of roses, but I believe the best times are more. Every marriage has its vicissitudes and sometimes these very skirmishes spoil the beautiful and lovely marriage we have long dreamed about if not handled effectively. In spite of all these, we can build a strong marriage if we only understand or have at the back of our minds that we are in to compliment each other. Remembering your best times is a great way to strengthen your marriage. This is most effective when it is done by both spouses together. Remembering those best times makes things feel fresh and anew, like when you first met. There is nothing more fun than being in the arms of each other and sharing your best times together. It is a good reflection and it makes a day great. Some of these memorable occasions could be.
When you first met
The first time you kissed
Your first date
Your wedding day
The first night of your wedding
Your honeymoon
When you were expecting your first child and when he/she finally arrived.
All these great moments in your marriage is to prove how far you have come as couples. There is nothing so refreshing than to love and be loved, it brings some sense of security, confidence and assurance. Bringing to memory your best times would not occur naturally most times but there are some activities you can do together which can help reflect on those memorable occasions.
How to save your marriage
Looking at your photos together. Pictures do not lie they are a great way to reflect on the past, bringing to memory the forgotten times. Looking at your pictures would help tell how both of you have changed or improved physically. It also helps to make fun of each other, this occurs naturally without any struggle nor fear. Pictures have a fine and funny way of bringing to memory those fun moments forgotten. This act bonds both of you together in a very beautiful and special way.
Visiting those places, you had your nice times. These places take you back into memory of how you celebrated your love and enjoyed yourselves, it brings back the spirit of love and serves as a period of relaxation for both of you.
Going on a family vacation with your kids.
Watching your wedding video together.
Attending a friend’s party or wedding together.
Remembering your best times influences your marriage greatly by rekindling your love life. The desire for each other increases and the longing, to be with, share, hold and care for each other is motivated. It also makes your home lovely and the best place you would always long to be.
Furthermore, hope and trust is built. That better future you always dream of your marriage is assured and strong faith in each other is brought to light.
It helps to keep the vowel and the promises you made to each other. Your vowels and promises are always brought to mind and actions are taking to fulfill them.
Beautiful times when remembered is health to the body and cheer to the broken heartened
Women in every relation turn to be very emotional and examine issues critically yet they are the weakest compared to their male counterparts who are some way passive and aggressive towards issues and they appear to be the strongest in the relationship. This diversities in nature is to help them see the clear image of life when they come together as husband and wife. It is not an accident to have divergent views on life as spouse, it just natural that the two of you see things from a different angle. You cannot blame yourselves for these differences but rather appreciate the fact of being different when it comes to issues. No matter how hard you try. You cannot be same in thought and deeds as couples; naturally, you would have to involve yourselves in each other in these following ways.
Putting yourselves in each other's shoes. Taking into account the way the other partner is feeling or taking an interest in the way your partner is doing things.
Do not be controversial
Do no take entrenched position when it comes to issues
Be patient and tolerant.
Have a teachable and learning spirit
Forget the past mistakes.
Be open minded
Beauty attracts but it takes attitude to keep a friend. In marriage men turn to gravitate towards respect while the women gravitate towards love and where the is no respect, love is absent. While the wife turns to respect the husband, he loves her more and more.
In building a strong love relationship with your spouse, respect should be a mutual thing. Respect in marriage is one great ingredient to a successful and a happier marriage. In today’s world divorce is on the ascendancy because couples have lost this moral value and have taken on pride, unforgiveness, selfishness, etc.
The subject of respect in marriage is so key that it should not be overlooked. Couples need to let go of pride and should not be too wise in their own eyes.
Do not verbally abuse or assault your partner. These create a division in the home and make the children be disrespectful toward the other partner. Insulting your spouse in the presence of your kids or before friends shows how fractured you are morally, remember you are a role model to your children and they might repeat it or do it in their future marriage. The other partner may feel greatly hurt because these acts are shameful and humiliating. Exposing the weakness of your partner in an act which is damaging indirectly has a great toll on you.
Never in your life say the negative of your spouse in the presence of your kids, family or friends nor broadcasting your spouse to win the praise of people, it sinful and unacceptable in the sight of God.
Do not physical assault your spouse. It shows how weak you are in controlling your home and how unaccepted, unloved, and disrespected the other partner is.
Do not utter words that are so damaging or say things that bring to mind the unfortunate past. Sometimes in our anger, we say things we are not to say, like "I've regretted marrying you”, “you are a mistake", useless thing”, “good for nothing fool" etc. These are heart-cutting utterances which cut to the core, learn to control your temper and tame the tongue please, it is a good virtue.
You might lose your spouse when you make such remarks it so damaging that it can cause emotional and mental traumas and this will process in your spouse coldness or lukewarm behaviors. If you find yourself in this situation pray for God's forgiveness and He should restore you spouse. Let couples show respect to each other in a meaningful way, this should be without partiality or pretense.
How to save your marriage
Show love
Love is an abstract and therefore can only be seen when it is expressed through actions. If you are in love with someone, you are romantically attached to them and they are very important to you. Showing love requires that you should be romantic and being romantic is simply doing or saying things that will make your spouse feel special and loved. These act does not require you to be that expensive, it all about little or simple things but yet they mean a lot. Some of these little things are.
Kissing your spouse. At list kiss, your spouse four times in a day. First in the morning just after bed, secondly before setting off to work, thirdly when you arrive from work and just before bedtime
Give gifts. Buy gifts for your spouse, this should not only be special occasion but should be a lifestyle. A gift whether big or small show how you love and cherish your spouse.
Tell your spouse sweet things. Tell your spouse how much you love him or her, use words that are refreshing and ear tickling. Mean what you say and let your body language reflect it as well.
Spend quality time together. It is not the length of time spent but how it was spent gives it value. Take your spouse to dinner, to watch a movie but should be the kind that your spouse likes, a music concert, comedy concerts. Though these things are difficult for some to practice, I think it a gradual process and it will take practice and reading of healthy material about these things to get you fully prepared. There are many ways to be romantic; you could develop your own ways of showing your romantic nature.
Encouragement and counsel. Spur each other on and give advice.
Financially. Meet the financial needs of each other.
Domestic help. Assist your spouse in cooking or doing laundry
Training of kids. Have a common goal and method to train your kids and these goals should not be compromised
Spiritually. Pray for each other and maintain the covenant
Have more and improved sex life
Sex cannot be separated from marriage, it so important that you cannot underestimate this subject and at no point in your marriage should you deprive yourselves the pleasure of sex, it affects the health of your marriage negatively. Sex plays a vital roll in marriage and has a significant effect on the emotional, spiritual and the physical outlook of the marriage. Research has shown that married men who have more sex with their wives turn out to be more confident than their counterparts with little or no sex. If your sex is below 96 a year than you have a sexless marriage. A sexless marriage has a number of contributing factors.
Monotonous sex life. When your sex life becomes monotonous, it simply means that it is very boring because it has a regular, repeated pattern which never changes. Variety in the way you initiate and perform sex gives it a different outlook. When sex in marriage becomes boring the marriage also becomes boring as well and the is the temptation to go out. When sex becomes monotonous the edge and the drive to engage in each other becomes less.
Issues of personal hygiene. Issues of personal hygiene have a significant effect on your sex life. Most women complained about their husbands not bathing twice or not bathing before wanting to sleep with them. While the men claim that, their wives turn out to look unattractive after marriage by leaving their hair undone and not dressing to attract.etc. Bad breath and body odor are also some of the issues complained about.
Health Problems. When the body is sick it functionality is greatly reduced. Health issues relating to sexual dysfunction like erectile dysfunctions. These issues affect childbirth and sex life. Some of these sufferers of these diseases turn out to cover it up with excuses. I advise you to see an expert to help solve or talk to someone you think can help.
Marriage feels hollow, happiness is incomplete when the is no sex in the marriage or it becomes unpleasurable. However, the are several things to do to make your sex life better and enjoyable.
Know the body of your spouse. Couples need to be very observing of each other and have some knowledge of each other's body type. It is takes learning and communication to arrive at this point. The bodily characteristic and the nature of a person influences their activates generally, so it is very important to have a fair idea of what to do to turn them on or particular parts of their bodies that turn them on.
Communication. Your sex life won't get better without communication, it is very important to discuss issues relating to your sex life as couples. It helps to correct and straighten mistakes committed. You can discuss your most preferred and enjoined sex position(s), it will also help greatly if you discuss the general conduct during and after your lovemaking, if either of you did not meet expectation.
Learn and use new sex positions. The use of different sex position brings variation in your lovemaking. There are a lot of healthy marriage books that can give you much information on this.
Warning: please avoid the use of pornographic materials whether books or tapes because most of their activities are fiction and inapplicable. The use of too many sex positions should be avoided at list 2-3 is advisable, too may make your lovemaking boring and frustrating.
How to save your marriage
Be positive and recognize that it normal to have differences
As couples, you need to be hopeful and confident, and think of the good aspects of your marriage, know that your positivity and negativity has a direct effect on your marriage. It is garbage in, garbage out, your mindset and proclamation about your marriage determines its success.
We are not ignorant of the fact that sometimes certain happenings make us portray negativity, we are to ignore it before it takes root and becomes destructive to the survival of the marriage. Guard and guide your hearts, minds and tongue, teach yourselves to be positive in all situations, in no way should you dwell on the negatives of each other nor take an entrenched position because your better half misbehaved.
You are only allowed to correct not to judge but should be done in love. Positive attitude produces positive results and the negative vice versa like Newton’s law which states: to every action the is an equal and opposite reaction. In marriage, the more you point to the negative the more the love dwindles.
Negativity produces limitations. You might not see the full beauty of your spouse or the inner qualities that makes up their true personality. The wouldn't be openness, the expression of love, sharing of ideas and opinions
Setbacks. In a marriage where the is no love and the expression of ideas, the is no progress. When you are negative, it keeps you bound and nonreactive towards the progress of your marriage. How can you achieve success when you are doubtful, simply because you are being captured by fear and bitterness.
Fear and bitterness. Do not allow this destructive weapon of the devil to take root in your life. For where the is fear the is insecurity and the devil thrives. Most couples became bitter towards each other when they realize they are being maltreated. This keeps you bound and nonreactive towards the growth and prosperity of your marriage
In building a strong and happier marriage couples need to have a positive attitude, they should speak well of themselves and learn from each other. Admire and look for the positive qualities in yourselves rather than the negative. Speak positive things into your marriage and always expect the best, also learning to take control of your tempers.
The most identical twins are not the same and it is typical of every human due to how they were trained and the environment they grew up. Couples should be aware of the fact that it normal to have misunderstandings. No marriage is immune to disagreement. Couples should be mentally and emotionally prepared to handle quarrels because every marriage at a point in time faces this reality but these quarrels should not be stretched but should be resolved amicably and immediately. It very important to appreciate these quarrels, they came as test of your love for each other and to mature you as couples.
These differences should not be allowed to bring separation between the two. Do not always want to win the argument, exercise all your rights or think you are always right. Sometimes you have to lose the argument, overlook things just to ensure peace and harmony.
In other to nail these differences, it is very necessary to be patient and tolerant; it is required to be temperate and accommodating in attitude.
Be ready to forget the hurt and forgive
Relate to each other in humility and respect
Be open-minded and do not take entrenched positions.
Warning: it is not right to quarrel in front of the kids or in the public but rather do it in your bedroom undertone far from the hearing of others.
Make Christ the center of the marriage
God instituted marriage and so in him all thing are made perfect. To every existing art, the is an architect and he can best explain the art of his handy work. Therefore, God is the only manual of marriage. In him, only the joy and the fulfillment of marriage is found. To have access to God you need Christ. Without Christ, in your life, God is far from your reach.
Maybe you are already a Christian, it does not guaranty that Christ is in your marriage. He would only take charge of the marriage if you invite him in. Christian couples would have to willing open up their marriage to Christ by confessing him lord over their marriage. Allow Him to have his authority established in the marriage, let Him lead and you do the following, let His influence have the greater impact on your marriage through the spirit.
Cast all your cares and burdens on him; think of them no more for he is faithful to do that which you have asked. Maybe you do not know Christ, I recommend him to you this day to have a hold on to him.
John 3:16 "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
The love of God has no limit, He is an embodiment of love and His love is the greatest. For God so loved you and me that He sent Jesus to pay for our sins. No matter what you have done, the gravity of sin you have committed Jesus will make you whole. His main aim is to give your soul rest and put to flight all your burdens. He is the only one that can revive that dead marriage, give you hope, straighten the crooked path. He is ever ready for you, all you have to do is to confess Him as Lord of your life
{john 1:12, 3:5-6}12Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children 5Jesus answered, "I tell you the truth, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless he is born of water and the Spirit. 6Flesh gives birth to flesh, but the Spirit gives birth to spirit. You need to be born again through the renewing of your mind and ways, to share in this glorious kingdom. [2corithins 5.17]17Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come
Jesus is still in the business of setting people free from death and translating them into life. After this life the is only two places for your soul, it is either Hell or Heaven. Hell is for those who do not know Christ or those who have head of Him but rejected Him.
[luke16:21-23]20At his gate was laid a beggar named Lazarus, covered with sores 21and longing to eat what fell from the rich man's table. Even the dogs came and licked his sores. 22"The time came when the beggar died and the angels carried him to Abraham's side. The rich man also died and was buried. 23In hell, where he was in torment, he looked up and saw Abraham far away, with Lazarus by his side. 24So he called to him, 'Father Abraham, have pity on me and send Lazarus to dip the tip of his finger in water and cool my tongue, because I am in agony in this fire.'
If you do not have Christ, you are heading towards eternal distraction. Hell is a place of pain, hurt, disgrace, everlasting suffering, and regret. Do not be deceived, Hell is not a state of being but a literal place of burning sulfur, which exists beyond the reach of the physical]
Daniel 12.22Multitudes who sleep in the dust of the earth will awake: some to everlasting life, others to shame and everlasting contempt.
Heaven is for those who have Christ and have walked in his principles faithfully, it is a place of peace, feasting, celebration, joy, reward and eternal life. Heaven is a glorious place with streets of gold and mansion, the beauty of heaven is beyond the imaginations of men. The choice is yours to either be with Jesus Christ in heaven or to go to hell where the is suffering.
Jesus is light. He is light and a lamp to those who have him. He becomes your wisdom and security to guard and guide you in all thing pertaining to life and Godliness. [1coritains 1.24]24But to those whom God has called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ the power of God and the wisdom of God.
Many who have come to him are still with him because he has never disappointed them nor failed on his promises. If this day you will open your heart and let him in, it doesn't matter who you are, it doesn't matter where you have been and it doesn't matter what you have done Jesus is suffering calling, it because of who he is and because of where his been you can start all over again. if you are ready to start all over again just pray this prayer
Dear lord am a sinner and believing that the Lord Jesus Christ died for my sins on the cross and was raised for my justification, l do now receive and confess Him as my Lord and personal Saviour
Maybe you just dedicated your marriage to God or you just gave your life Christ you can do the following as couple or as an individual to make Christ the center of your marital life or personal life.
Pray together as a couple or as an individual
[1 Thessalonians 5.17-18]16Be joyful always;
17 pray continually; 18 give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.
Pray at all times, pray for the growth and well-being of your marriage and life. Go for prayer meetings and have special prayer and fasting as an individual or couple.
Read and study the bible.
[Joshua 1.8]8Do not let this Book of the Law depart from your mouth; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.
Have family quite times, teach your children the principles of God. Join others in worship. May be you just got born again I edge you find a bible believing church near you and fellowship with them and if you are already a believer I edge you also to be in church always with you family.
Visiting those places, you had your nice times. These places take you back into memory of how you celebrated your love and enjoyed yourselves, it brings back the spirit of love and serves as a period of relaxation for both of you.
Going on a family vacation with your kids.
Watching your wedding video together.
Attending a friend’s party or wedding together.
Remembering your best times influences your marriage greatly by rekindling your love life. The desire for each other increases and the longing, to be with, share, hold and care for each other is motivated. It also makes your home lovely and the best place you would always long to be.
Furthermore, hope and trust is built. That better future you always dream of your marriage is assured and strong faith in each other is brought to light.
It helps to keep the vowel and the promises you made to each other. Your vowels and promises are always brought to mind and actions are taking to fulfill them.
Beautiful times when remembered is health to the body and cheer to the broken heartened
See things from the viewpoint of your spouse
Men and women are entirely different species altogether. Their natural make up turns to affect their actions, thought pattern and vision. No two people are the same, as husband and wife both of you are entirely new to each other.Women in every relation turn to be very emotional and examine issues critically yet they are the weakest compared to their male counterparts who are some way passive and aggressive towards issues and they appear to be the strongest in the relationship. This diversities in nature is to help them see the clear image of life when they come together as husband and wife. It is not an accident to have divergent views on life as spouse, it just natural that the two of you see things from a different angle. You cannot blame yourselves for these differences but rather appreciate the fact of being different when it comes to issues. No matter how hard you try. You cannot be same in thought and deeds as couples; naturally, you would have to involve yourselves in each other in these following ways.
Putting yourselves in each other's shoes. Taking into account the way the other partner is feeling or taking an interest in the way your partner is doing things.
Do not be controversial
Do no take entrenched position when it comes to issues
Be patient and tolerant.
Have a teachable and learning spirit
Forget the past mistakes.
Be open minded
Respect
Though short this word may be, it has a great impact on marital relationship. Respect is all about given reverence to someone or being modest in attitude. Every human in this life has some level of pride and self-respect, when this standard is compromised the is bound to be problems. In marriage, it is not how beautiful or rich you are but your attitude in the relationship has a greater influence.Beauty attracts but it takes attitude to keep a friend. In marriage men turn to gravitate towards respect while the women gravitate towards love and where the is no respect, love is absent. While the wife turns to respect the husband, he loves her more and more.
In building a strong love relationship with your spouse, respect should be a mutual thing. Respect in marriage is one great ingredient to a successful and a happier marriage. In today’s world divorce is on the ascendancy because couples have lost this moral value and have taken on pride, unforgiveness, selfishness, etc.
The subject of respect in marriage is so key that it should not be overlooked. Couples need to let go of pride and should not be too wise in their own eyes.
Do not verbally abuse or assault your partner. These create a division in the home and make the children be disrespectful toward the other partner. Insulting your spouse in the presence of your kids or before friends shows how fractured you are morally, remember you are a role model to your children and they might repeat it or do it in their future marriage. The other partner may feel greatly hurt because these acts are shameful and humiliating. Exposing the weakness of your partner in an act which is damaging indirectly has a great toll on you.
Never in your life say the negative of your spouse in the presence of your kids, family or friends nor broadcasting your spouse to win the praise of people, it sinful and unacceptable in the sight of God.
Do not physical assault your spouse. It shows how weak you are in controlling your home and how unaccepted, unloved, and disrespected the other partner is.
Do not utter words that are so damaging or say things that bring to mind the unfortunate past. Sometimes in our anger, we say things we are not to say, like "I've regretted marrying you”, “you are a mistake", useless thing”, “good for nothing fool" etc. These are heart-cutting utterances which cut to the core, learn to control your temper and tame the tongue please, it is a good virtue.
You might lose your spouse when you make such remarks it so damaging that it can cause emotional and mental traumas and this will process in your spouse coldness or lukewarm behaviors. If you find yourself in this situation pray for God's forgiveness and He should restore you spouse. Let couples show respect to each other in a meaningful way, this should be without partiality or pretense.
How to save your marriage
Show love
Love is an abstract and therefore can only be seen when it is expressed through actions. If you are in love with someone, you are romantically attached to them and they are very important to you. Showing love requires that you should be romantic and being romantic is simply doing or saying things that will make your spouse feel special and loved. These act does not require you to be that expensive, it all about little or simple things but yet they mean a lot. Some of these little things are.
Kissing your spouse. At list kiss, your spouse four times in a day. First in the morning just after bed, secondly before setting off to work, thirdly when you arrive from work and just before bedtime
Give gifts. Buy gifts for your spouse, this should not only be special occasion but should be a lifestyle. A gift whether big or small show how you love and cherish your spouse.
Tell your spouse sweet things. Tell your spouse how much you love him or her, use words that are refreshing and ear tickling. Mean what you say and let your body language reflect it as well.
Spend quality time together. It is not the length of time spent but how it was spent gives it value. Take your spouse to dinner, to watch a movie but should be the kind that your spouse likes, a music concert, comedy concerts. Though these things are difficult for some to practice, I think it a gradual process and it will take practice and reading of healthy material about these things to get you fully prepared. There are many ways to be romantic; you could develop your own ways of showing your romantic nature.
Give care and support
Loving a person demands that their happiness is important to you and to make up for this you take good care of them. It is a duty to keep each other in good condition by the following.Encouragement and counsel. Spur each other on and give advice.
Financially. Meet the financial needs of each other.
Domestic help. Assist your spouse in cooking or doing laundry
Training of kids. Have a common goal and method to train your kids and these goals should not be compromised
Spiritually. Pray for each other and maintain the covenant
Have more and improved sex life
Sex cannot be separated from marriage, it so important that you cannot underestimate this subject and at no point in your marriage should you deprive yourselves the pleasure of sex, it affects the health of your marriage negatively. Sex plays a vital roll in marriage and has a significant effect on the emotional, spiritual and the physical outlook of the marriage. Research has shown that married men who have more sex with their wives turn out to be more confident than their counterparts with little or no sex. If your sex is below 96 a year than you have a sexless marriage. A sexless marriage has a number of contributing factors.
Monotonous sex life. When your sex life becomes monotonous, it simply means that it is very boring because it has a regular, repeated pattern which never changes. Variety in the way you initiate and perform sex gives it a different outlook. When sex in marriage becomes boring the marriage also becomes boring as well and the is the temptation to go out. When sex becomes monotonous the edge and the drive to engage in each other becomes less.
Issues of personal hygiene. Issues of personal hygiene have a significant effect on your sex life. Most women complained about their husbands not bathing twice or not bathing before wanting to sleep with them. While the men claim that, their wives turn out to look unattractive after marriage by leaving their hair undone and not dressing to attract.etc. Bad breath and body odor are also some of the issues complained about.
Health Problems. When the body is sick it functionality is greatly reduced. Health issues relating to sexual dysfunction like erectile dysfunctions. These issues affect childbirth and sex life. Some of these sufferers of these diseases turn out to cover it up with excuses. I advise you to see an expert to help solve or talk to someone you think can help.
Marriage feels hollow, happiness is incomplete when the is no sex in the marriage or it becomes unpleasurable. However, the are several things to do to make your sex life better and enjoyable.
Know the body of your spouse. Couples need to be very observing of each other and have some knowledge of each other's body type. It is takes learning and communication to arrive at this point. The bodily characteristic and the nature of a person influences their activates generally, so it is very important to have a fair idea of what to do to turn them on or particular parts of their bodies that turn them on.
Communication. Your sex life won't get better without communication, it is very important to discuss issues relating to your sex life as couples. It helps to correct and straighten mistakes committed. You can discuss your most preferred and enjoined sex position(s), it will also help greatly if you discuss the general conduct during and after your lovemaking, if either of you did not meet expectation.
Learn and use new sex positions. The use of different sex position brings variation in your lovemaking. There are a lot of healthy marriage books that can give you much information on this.
Warning: please avoid the use of pornographic materials whether books or tapes because most of their activities are fiction and inapplicable. The use of too many sex positions should be avoided at list 2-3 is advisable, too may make your lovemaking boring and frustrating.
How to save your marriage
Be positive and recognize that it normal to have differences
As couples, you need to be hopeful and confident, and think of the good aspects of your marriage, know that your positivity and negativity has a direct effect on your marriage. It is garbage in, garbage out, your mindset and proclamation about your marriage determines its success.
We are not ignorant of the fact that sometimes certain happenings make us portray negativity, we are to ignore it before it takes root and becomes destructive to the survival of the marriage. Guard and guide your hearts, minds and tongue, teach yourselves to be positive in all situations, in no way should you dwell on the negatives of each other nor take an entrenched position because your better half misbehaved.
You are only allowed to correct not to judge but should be done in love. Positive attitude produces positive results and the negative vice versa like Newton’s law which states: to every action the is an equal and opposite reaction. In marriage, the more you point to the negative the more the love dwindles.
Negativity produces limitations. You might not see the full beauty of your spouse or the inner qualities that makes up their true personality. The wouldn't be openness, the expression of love, sharing of ideas and opinions
Setbacks. In a marriage where the is no love and the expression of ideas, the is no progress. When you are negative, it keeps you bound and nonreactive towards the progress of your marriage. How can you achieve success when you are doubtful, simply because you are being captured by fear and bitterness.
Fear and bitterness. Do not allow this destructive weapon of the devil to take root in your life. For where the is fear the is insecurity and the devil thrives. Most couples became bitter towards each other when they realize they are being maltreated. This keeps you bound and nonreactive towards the growth and prosperity of your marriage
In building a strong and happier marriage couples need to have a positive attitude, they should speak well of themselves and learn from each other. Admire and look for the positive qualities in yourselves rather than the negative. Speak positive things into your marriage and always expect the best, also learning to take control of your tempers.
The most identical twins are not the same and it is typical of every human due to how they were trained and the environment they grew up. Couples should be aware of the fact that it normal to have misunderstandings. No marriage is immune to disagreement. Couples should be mentally and emotionally prepared to handle quarrels because every marriage at a point in time faces this reality but these quarrels should not be stretched but should be resolved amicably and immediately. It very important to appreciate these quarrels, they came as test of your love for each other and to mature you as couples.
These differences should not be allowed to bring separation between the two. Do not always want to win the argument, exercise all your rights or think you are always right. Sometimes you have to lose the argument, overlook things just to ensure peace and harmony.
In other to nail these differences, it is very necessary to be patient and tolerant; it is required to be temperate and accommodating in attitude.
Be ready to forget the hurt and forgive
Relate to each other in humility and respect
Be open-minded and do not take entrenched positions.
Warning: it is not right to quarrel in front of the kids or in the public but rather do it in your bedroom undertone far from the hearing of others.
Make Christ the center of the marriage
God instituted marriage and so in him all thing are made perfect. To every existing art, the is an architect and he can best explain the art of his handy work. Therefore, God is the only manual of marriage. In him, only the joy and the fulfillment of marriage is found. To have access to God you need Christ. Without Christ, in your life, God is far from your reach.
Maybe you are already a Christian, it does not guaranty that Christ is in your marriage. He would only take charge of the marriage if you invite him in. Christian couples would have to willing open up their marriage to Christ by confessing him lord over their marriage. Allow Him to have his authority established in the marriage, let Him lead and you do the following, let His influence have the greater impact on your marriage through the spirit.
Cast all your cares and burdens on him; think of them no more for he is faithful to do that which you have asked. Maybe you do not know Christ, I recommend him to you this day to have a hold on to him.
John 3:16 "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
The love of God has no limit, He is an embodiment of love and His love is the greatest. For God so loved you and me that He sent Jesus to pay for our sins. No matter what you have done, the gravity of sin you have committed Jesus will make you whole. His main aim is to give your soul rest and put to flight all your burdens. He is the only one that can revive that dead marriage, give you hope, straighten the crooked path. He is ever ready for you, all you have to do is to confess Him as Lord of your life
{john 1:12, 3:5-6}12Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children 5Jesus answered, "I tell you the truth, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless he is born of water and the Spirit. 6Flesh gives birth to flesh, but the Spirit gives birth to spirit. You need to be born again through the renewing of your mind and ways, to share in this glorious kingdom. [2corithins 5.17]17Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come
Jesus is still in the business of setting people free from death and translating them into life. After this life the is only two places for your soul, it is either Hell or Heaven. Hell is for those who do not know Christ or those who have head of Him but rejected Him.
[luke16:21-23]20At his gate was laid a beggar named Lazarus, covered with sores 21and longing to eat what fell from the rich man's table. Even the dogs came and licked his sores. 22"The time came when the beggar died and the angels carried him to Abraham's side. The rich man also died and was buried. 23In hell, where he was in torment, he looked up and saw Abraham far away, with Lazarus by his side. 24So he called to him, 'Father Abraham, have pity on me and send Lazarus to dip the tip of his finger in water and cool my tongue, because I am in agony in this fire.'
If you do not have Christ, you are heading towards eternal distraction. Hell is a place of pain, hurt, disgrace, everlasting suffering, and regret. Do not be deceived, Hell is not a state of being but a literal place of burning sulfur, which exists beyond the reach of the physical]
Daniel 12.22Multitudes who sleep in the dust of the earth will awake: some to everlasting life, others to shame and everlasting contempt.
Heaven is for those who have Christ and have walked in his principles faithfully, it is a place of peace, feasting, celebration, joy, reward and eternal life. Heaven is a glorious place with streets of gold and mansion, the beauty of heaven is beyond the imaginations of men. The choice is yours to either be with Jesus Christ in heaven or to go to hell where the is suffering.
Jesus is light. He is light and a lamp to those who have him. He becomes your wisdom and security to guard and guide you in all thing pertaining to life and Godliness. [1coritains 1.24]24But to those whom God has called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ the power of God and the wisdom of God.
Many who have come to him are still with him because he has never disappointed them nor failed on his promises. If this day you will open your heart and let him in, it doesn't matter who you are, it doesn't matter where you have been and it doesn't matter what you have done Jesus is suffering calling, it because of who he is and because of where his been you can start all over again. if you are ready to start all over again just pray this prayer
Dear lord am a sinner and believing that the Lord Jesus Christ died for my sins on the cross and was raised for my justification, l do now receive and confess Him as my Lord and personal Saviour
Maybe you just dedicated your marriage to God or you just gave your life Christ you can do the following as couple or as an individual to make Christ the center of your marital life or personal life.
Pray together as a couple or as an individual
[1 Thessalonians 5.17-18]16Be joyful always;
17 pray continually; 18 give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.
Pray at all times, pray for the growth and well-being of your marriage and life. Go for prayer meetings and have special prayer and fasting as an individual or couple.
Read and study the bible.
[Joshua 1.8]8Do not let this Book of the Law depart from your mouth; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.
Have family quite times, teach your children the principles of God. Join others in worship. May be you just got born again I edge you find a bible believing church near you and fellowship with them and if you are already a believer I edge you also to be in church always with you family.
