Having
at our side a person who loves you, respects you, values you and care about
you is one of the most wonderful gifts of life. We all aspire to find
love. Find a person with whom to share our life, who makes us happy, who
cares for us and who loves us more than anyone else in the world.
This
sometimes is not easy, you run into people who apparently seem appropriate, but
in the end, things go wrong. Until finally you find the one with which you
can imagine a future and a life to share and everything is beautiful and
wonderful.
However,
relationships have many challenges: coexistence can be difficult at times, we
forget to balance our needs and desires with those of our partner, we become
dependent and when things are not going so well in our relationship, we feel
sad, anxious and worried. Hence the importance of having an increasingly
healthy relationships, which bring us much pleasure and happiness.
To
have a good relationship, it takes more than attraction, work is required and
both should be willing to make the effort. Here are some tips to build a
healthy relationship.
1. Love unconditionally.
Love is a verb and therefore it must
be practiced. The state of accepting a person regardless of his condition or
state and making the welfare of that person your priority without wanting
anything in return. Married couples are to love each other unconditionally. It
all about taking into account the happiness of another without any thought of
what you might get for yourself. Unconditional love requires that you don’t
have to look at the weakness of your spouse, you forgive your spouse anytime
they offend you, and you do not make your spouse feel less important or
inferior, being patient and accommodating. It’s unconditional love when other
people care about our happiness.
2. Respect for each other.
Every house which is not built upon
a strong foundation, will fall likewise marriage. The marital relationship
can never be conflict-free, but having mutual respect for each other will be a
huge benefit to your relationship. Never take each other for granted. In a
marriage where there is no respect for each other, it is not a healthy
marriage. You are allowed to criticize but destructive criticism is dangerous
to the health of your marriage. Give reverence to your spouse and do not in any
way disregard him or her because of a shortcoming. You do not have to shout
to be heard when discussing issues. Do not call your spouse names, despising
your partner, attacking your partner when having a discussion, abuse your
partner verbally or physically or cheat on your partner all this does not show
respect. If you do not place value on your partner and you always disregard
their feelings they will become conceited, closed up and defensive.
3. Manage conflict.
We, humans, are imperfect and we all
have our differences, it completely natural. With our imperfection, we always
fall short of expectation. Misunderstanding will always spring up in our
marriage due to our imperfection. Marriage is never conflict-free. But what
makes a successful marriage is knowing how to argue and after being able to
come to a peaceful conclusion. Solving disputes and disappointment is the
cornerstone of a happy marriage. The key point is this, learn how to fight
right, how to apologize after the fight and finding a lasting solution to the
problem, is your best bet to a blissful marriage.
4. Have a forgiven heart.
The is no relationship without
issues and a relationship means vulnerability. You either disappoint or be
disappointed. You have no control over this matter the best you can do in
painful circumstances is to have a big heart. A heart that can never be
satisfied or can be filled to the brim with pain or disappointment less it
explodes. Our heart should be big enough to forgive always without keeping
track of the past. No matter what you do the arrow of pain and hurt will be
shot at you but what will make you survive is when you have the shield of
forgiveness. You must learn to forgive it important because unforgiveness
breeds resentment and bitterness. Bitterness and resentment over time create
hatred. Learn to forgive and forget even when your spouse refuses to apologize
for an offense. Do not harbor the pain, you are hurting yourself.
5. Learn to compromise.
To compromise require that you
should be patient, open-minded, work as a team and above all self-sacrifice.
You don’t have to agree with everything your spouse says, as a matter of fact,
it is completely impossible to be on the same page every time. This will surely
bring disagreement. All you can do is to be open to considering their point of
view. Learn to give up on your desires just to make your spouse have his or her
way. Because you are no longer alone where you only think about yourself but
you have to put your marriage above your personal interests. Learn to
understand each other. Anytime there is an issue, find common grounds and
compromise
6. Do not neglect the relationship
People become careless and dormant,
which is very common over time, in the relationship. Then all those
charms begin to dwindle and all the attention that was given at the
beginning disappears. It is when people ask themselves, without really knowing
why "What did I do wrong?". Therefore, the relationship is like
a child or any other association that you want to do, it needs care,
attention, and affection.
7. Be open and honest
Trust is still one of the big
buzzwords that form the basis of every relationship. To open up and talk about
your concerns and deep emotions. Experts see it as one of the essential
recipes, which makes for a happy relationship: "The feeling of being able
to express oneself to the other partner with his innermost self, to be saved
with his or her weaknesses and quirks creates stronger bonding and
closeness. These are important ingredients for a much stable love relationship.
"If you have an open and honest relationship with your partner, this, in
turn, has positive effects on your communication and conflict management.
Building trust requires mutual commitment. Trust can’t be built if only one
partner is willing to do this and the other isn’t. it’s important
for both partners to trust and be trusted, to open up and be vulnerable with
each other.
8. Learning to talk to each other
The mere ability to speak and listen
does not say anything about the ability to communicate, communication is such a huge part of our day-to-day
lives. When done correctly, it helps us understand how the other person is
feeling and what they are thinking. We leave our parents' houses
and do not realize that we often did not properly learn relationship and
communication. To speak with each other must be learned; in every love
relationship. Especially women complain about too little communication, too
little conversation, too little time to deal with each other. Happy couples are
different from non-happy ones, partners in happy love relationship talk a lot
about personal concerns. They exchange their personal experience and state of
health in conversation; tell each other what happened to them, what causes them
fear or joy. When trying
to communicate with your partner, it’s important, to be honest with them. Using
the concept of dialogue is the best framework conditions that enable a very
effective communication with each other. The dialogue allows one to turn to
each other, to perceive oneself and the others, to listen and develop together,
as well as to create trust and a rule-free mode of conversation.
9.Do not take your partner for granted
We are so eager to be understood,
valued, and perceived by someone. This unconscious expectation breaks many
relationships If not realized however, this must first take its start in
yourself. What has to start with you is appreciation for everything including
yourself. Taking your partner for granted could be in many forms. The fastest
road to relationship collapse is taking your partner for granted. If your
partner never says "thank you. “After You do all kinds of stuff to make
your partner happy, from cooking a meal, to doing big, complicated
favors. Or If your partner cheats on you, because they think they'll get away
with it. Your partner is taking you for granted. All, this attitude
is important; being appreciative, not cheating, valuing the opinions of your
partner and being romantic spice up the relationship. Especially being
appreciative of your partner means not taking his existence and his so-being
for granted and to have the willingness to be with him. By recognizing your
partner and respecting his being shows, you value not only him/her but also
yourself and your choices
Having
at our side a person who loves you, respects you, values you and care about
you is one of the most wonderful gifts of life. We all aspire to find
love. Find a person with whom to share our life, who makes us happy, who
cares for us and who loves us more than anyone else in the world.
This
sometimes is not easy, you run into people who apparently seem appropriate, but
in the end, things go wrong. Until finally you find the one with which you
can imagine a future and a life to share and everything is beautiful and
wonderful.
However,
relationships have many challenges: coexistence can be difficult at times, we
forget to balance our needs and desires with those of our partner, we become
dependent and when things are not going so well in our relationship, we feel
sad, anxious and worried. Hence the importance of having an increasingly
healthy relationships, which bring us much pleasure and happiness.
To
have a good relationship, it takes more than attraction, work is required and
both should be willing to make the effort. Here are some tips to build a
healthy relationship.
1. Love unconditionally.
Love is a verb and therefore it must
be practiced. The state of accepting a person regardless of his condition or
state and making the welfare of that person your priority without wanting
anything in return. Married couples are to love each other unconditionally. It
all about taking into account the happiness of another without any thought of
what you might get for yourself. Unconditional love requires that you don’t
have to look at the weakness of your spouse, you forgive your spouse anytime
they offend you, and you do not make your spouse feel less important or
inferior, being patient and accommodating. It’s unconditional love when other
people care about our happiness.
2. Respect for each other.
Every house which is not built upon
a strong foundation, will fall likewise marriage. The marital relationship
can never be conflict-free, but having mutual respect for each other will be a
huge benefit to your relationship. Never take each other for granted. In a
marriage where there is no respect for each other, it is not a healthy
marriage. You are allowed to criticize but destructive criticism is dangerous
to the health of your marriage. Give reverence to your spouse and do not in any
way disregard him or her because of a shortcoming. You do not have to shout
to be heard when discussing issues. Do not call your spouse names, despising
your partner, attacking your partner when having a discussion, abuse your
partner verbally or physically or cheat on your partner all this does not show
respect. If you do not place value on your partner and you always disregard
their feelings they will become conceited, closed up and defensive.
3. Manage conflict.
We, humans, are imperfect and we all
have our differences, it completely natural. With our imperfection, we always
fall short of expectation. Misunderstanding will always spring up in our
marriage due to our imperfection. Marriage is never conflict-free. But what
makes a successful marriage is knowing how to argue and after being able to
come to a peaceful conclusion. Solving disputes and disappointment is the
cornerstone of a happy marriage. The key point is this, learn how to fight
right, how to apologize after the fight and finding a lasting solution to the
problem, is your best bet to a blissful marriage.
4. Have a forgiven heart.
The is no relationship without
issues and a relationship means vulnerability. You either disappoint or be
disappointed. You have no control over this matter the best you can do in
painful circumstances is to have a big heart. A heart that can never be
satisfied or can be filled to the brim with pain or disappointment less it
explodes. Our heart should be big enough to forgive always without keeping
track of the past. No matter what you do the arrow of pain and hurt will be
shot at you but what will make you survive is when you have the shield of
forgiveness. You must learn to forgive it important because unforgiveness
breeds resentment and bitterness. Bitterness and resentment over time create
hatred. Learn to forgive and forget even when your spouse refuses to apologize
for an offense. Do not harbor the pain, you are hurting yourself.
5. Learn to compromise.
To compromise require that you
should be patient, open-minded, work as a team and above all self-sacrifice.
You don’t have to agree with everything your spouse says, as a matter of fact,
it is completely impossible to be on the same page every time. This will surely
bring disagreement. All you can do is to be open to considering their point of
view. Learn to give up on your desires just to make your spouse have his or her
way. Because you are no longer alone where you only think about yourself but
you have to put your marriage above your personal interests. Learn to
understand each other. Anytime there is an issue, find common grounds and
compromise
6. Do not neglect the relationship
People become careless and dormant,
which is very common over time, in the relationship. Then all those
charms begin to dwindle and all the attention that was given at the
beginning disappears. It is when people ask themselves, without really knowing
why "What did I do wrong?". Therefore, the relationship is like
a child or any other association that you want to do, it needs care,
attention, and affection.
7. Be open and honest
Trust is still one of the big
buzzwords that form the basis of every relationship. To open up and talk about
your concerns and deep emotions. Experts see it as one of the essential
recipes, which makes for a happy relationship: "The feeling of being able
to express oneself to the other partner with his innermost self, to be saved
with his or her weaknesses and quirks creates stronger bonding and
closeness. These are important ingredients for a much stable love relationship.
"If you have an open and honest relationship with your partner, this, in
turn, has positive effects on your communication and conflict management.
Building trust requires mutual commitment. Trust can’t be built if only one
partner is willing to do this and the other isn’t. it’s important
for both partners to trust and be trusted, to open up and be vulnerable with
each other.
8. Learning to talk to each other
The mere ability to speak and listen
does not say anything about the ability to communicate, communication is such a huge part of our day-to-day
lives. When done correctly, it helps us understand how the other person is
feeling and what they are thinking. We leave our parents' houses
and do not realize that we often did not properly learn relationship and
communication. To speak with each other must be learned; in every love
relationship. Especially women complain about too little communication, too
little conversation, too little time to deal with each other. Happy couples are
different from non-happy ones, partners in happy love relationship talk a lot
about personal concerns. They exchange their personal experience and state of
health in conversation; tell each other what happened to them, what causes them
fear or joy. When trying
to communicate with your partner, it’s important, to be honest with them. Using
the concept of dialogue is the best framework conditions that enable a very
effective communication with each other. The dialogue allows one to turn to
each other, to perceive oneself and the others, to listen and develop together,
as well as to create trust and a rule-free mode of conversation.
9.Do not take your partner for granted
We are so eager to be understood,
valued, and perceived by someone. This unconscious expectation breaks many
relationships If not realized however, this must first take its start in
yourself. What has to start with you is appreciation for everything including
yourself. Taking your partner for granted could be in many forms. The fastest
road to relationship collapse is taking your partner for granted. If your
partner never says "thank you. “After You do all kinds of stuff to make
your partner happy, from cooking a meal, to doing big, complicated
favors. Or If your partner cheats on you, because they think they'll get away
with it. Your partner is taking you for granted. All, this attitude
is important; being appreciative, not cheating, valuing the opinions of your
partner and being romantic spice up the relationship. Especially being
appreciative of your partner means not taking his existence and his so-being
for granted and to have the willingness to be with him. By recognizing your
partner and respecting his being shows, you value not only him/her but also
yourself and your choices
This way he will learn how to show his feelings to you without rushing you will learn how to do the same to him. For more information on successful relationship read here.
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