1. Effective
communication.
The ultimate to step towards transforming a sexless marriage is first recognizing that your marriage is sexless and both of you need to make the necessary commitment to solving the problem. There may be a number of reasons why you have stopped having sex, this could be issues of confidence, stress, illness, worry about performance, low libido, age, and menopause. If you both can honestly say that you two want to have an erotic relationship again then sit down and have a very honest conversation about the problem and the way forward.
The ultimate to step towards transforming a sexless marriage is first recognizing that your marriage is sexless and both of you need to make the necessary commitment to solving the problem. There may be a number of reasons why you have stopped having sex, this could be issues of confidence, stress, illness, worry about performance, low libido, age, and menopause. If you both can honestly say that you two want to have an erotic relationship again then sit down and have a very honest conversation about the problem and the way forward.
2. End
the monotony
In the beginning of the relationship, everything is new and exciting. As we spend more time together, the fire begins to die gradually. When sex in marriage becomes monotonous it kills that drive to always want to be intimate. To prevent the relationship from becoming monotonous. Do something new and provocative always because if you keep on doing something all the time, always the same way, the outcome will never change it always be the same. Use different sex positions, go to a new location, change the rhythm and tempo it critical to the survival of your sex life. So it very possible to create excitement again by introducing something new and fresh every now and then. This will species up your sex life and bring into the marriage the needed joy and happiness
In the beginning of the relationship, everything is new and exciting. As we spend more time together, the fire begins to die gradually. When sex in marriage becomes monotonous it kills that drive to always want to be intimate. To prevent the relationship from becoming monotonous. Do something new and provocative always because if you keep on doing something all the time, always the same way, the outcome will never change it always be the same. Use different sex positions, go to a new location, change the rhythm and tempo it critical to the survival of your sex life. So it very possible to create excitement again by introducing something new and fresh every now and then. This will species up your sex life and bring into the marriage the needed joy and happiness
3. Take an inventory.
There are a number of factors that can contribute to your sexless marriage these factors could be, resentment, work stress, deprivation, a sense of betrayal and other responsibilities like child rearing can make your marriage sexless. The first step is to do a careful search to see what is making you not to have that drive for each other. Get to understand the factors contributing to the problem and be conscious and find a lasting solution to the problem create moments for the two of you. Getting the problem solved is, to be honest about the situation. Create time for each other and make the moment special and unforgettable. Be affectionate and learn how to be more romantic, it will do your marriage a lot of good.
4.Be
honest
Men are found to telling lies when it comes sexual issues. Most men try to hide their sexual problems just in the attempt to preserve their ego. For most men, it is health issues which bring about low libido. This clinical issues could be erectile dysfunction or impotency. If you are a man going through this problem just be honest with your wife and tell her the truth it will do your relationship a lot of good than keeping it secret from your partner. Talk things through with her and if the is a need for medical help to get the problem solved, do so to save your marriage. Otherwise, your wife will feel a sense of betrayal or deprivation if some way somehow she gets to know. This may threaten the survival of your marriage.
Men are found to telling lies when it comes sexual issues. Most men try to hide their sexual problems just in the attempt to preserve their ego. For most men, it is health issues which bring about low libido. This clinical issues could be erectile dysfunction or impotency. If you are a man going through this problem just be honest with your wife and tell her the truth it will do your relationship a lot of good than keeping it secret from your partner. Talk things through with her and if the is a need for medical help to get the problem solved, do so to save your marriage. Otherwise, your wife will feel a sense of betrayal or deprivation if some way somehow she gets to know. This may threaten the survival of your marriage.
5. Create a
conducive environment
Love cannot grow
in a hostile environment no matter how it tries it will eventually die. Love needs an environment
conducive enough for it to grow.Creating an enabling environment is key to the
success of your marriage. Kindness should be a priority, love, and
care for each other. Show
gratitude to complement the effort of your partner. This little things of
loving, serving one another and being grateful for the minutest thing. As you make this conscious effort
you are creating an environment where you both will feel loved and greatly
valued. This type of
environment would make both of you feel happy valued and greatly appreciated.
6. More
cuddling
Cuddling each other
is a great way to revive your sex life, Get naked and cuddle. The
act of cuddling is a powerful tool to cure your sexless marriage. The full body
skin-to-skin contact of cuddling can be enough to create more intimacy and
oxytocin gets to be released a hormone responsible for love and bonding.
As a result, you will feel happy and relaxed. Make it your priority
to do this at least two to four
times a week for some few minute
7. Encourage
your fantasies.
The things that make a man excited is completely different from their lovers. Everybody likes to be praised for the things they do and especially their sex moves. For women, the key to their pleasure is when they get sweet compliments or get pampered. Sugarcoated compliments will not make you partner feel special but telling them things they love genuinely and you should mean the things you are saying. Start talking about new things in bed with her so you know what her current fantasies are, because over time they usually change, so do not stay in the past, surprise her and make her enjoy the relationships like never before. When couples share their fantasies the result can be great excitement and romance.
8 Seek help together.
The things that make a man excited is completely different from their lovers. Everybody likes to be praised for the things they do and especially their sex moves. For women, the key to their pleasure is when they get sweet compliments or get pampered. Sugarcoated compliments will not make you partner feel special but telling them things they love genuinely and you should mean the things you are saying. Start talking about new things in bed with her so you know what her current fantasies are, because over time they usually change, so do not stay in the past, surprise her and make her enjoy the relationships like never before. When couples share their fantasies the result can be great excitement and romance.
8 Seek help together.
Everyone in this world needs help no matter who you are. It
therefore important to seek the advice of a professional Sex therapist
it can be a great source of help to your marriage. They may
give practical ways to fix the problem or talk you through the issue.
They may suggest tips, tricks and prescribe medical solutions to the problem.
At the beginning of a relationship, sex can be thrilling, the drive and
excitement can be high but at a point in the marriage that natural drive will
no longer be as it used to. It will take a bit of work
to get it on and this may sometime be difficult but at the end, it will be to
your benefit.
9.Make time
for her.
How much
time do you spend with your spouse? Most men are so busy that they can’t even
spend 15 minutes with their spouse. When the woman complains they become upset.
Women need attention, they want to spend time with you it because they love
their husband. Time will not be available till you create the time yourself.
Learn to balance your life and your daily activities, drop habits which you
think are not helping your marriage. Take your wife out for dinner, help her
cook, spend some time chatting with her if not every day at least every other
day. Women love to talk the more time you spend listening to her the more she
will feel close to you.
