If you do not believe in yourself, do not hope someone else
does. Only if you believe in yourself, you can offer others something they can
believe in.
How many
opportunities have you left behind, how many ways have you not gone. You have
doubts, fear, and complexes. And this makes you suffer in your life instead of
living a happier live it.
Therefore, you must believe in yourself. Because even if
others seem to do it, this does not count if you do not do it yourself first.
It does not help at all if you are told how much you are worth if you do not
believe it yourself.
There is good news! It
is never too late to take the reins into your hands. It is a complex learning
process, but it is possible to learn to believe in oneself. In the following,
we will show you a few simple strategies that help you to believe in yourself
and gain confidence and confidence. With them, you will discover all that is in
you.
1 - self-confidence can be learned.
"Low self-confidence isn't a life sentence.
Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered--just like any other
skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the
better." --Barrie Davenport
If you are not aware that you can learn to believe in
yourself, then you will not reach it. It is just like learning a new language. Would
you start learning a new language if you were not convinced you could learn it?
When you start to learn something, it is because you have self-confidence that
you can make it. If you do not trust, you will not achieve anything. If you
believe in yourself, you might not reach it, but you did not take the chance to
try it. Self-confidence can be learned, do not forget. With a lot of effort and
training you can reach it, you just have to try it.
“The person who risks
nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing, and becomes nothing. He may
avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow or
love.
Chained by his certitude, he is a slave; he has forfeited his freedom. Only the person who risks is truly free.”― Leo Buscaglia
Chained by his certitude, he is a slave; he has forfeited his freedom. Only the person who risks is truly free.”― Leo Buscaglia
2 – Shut that inner negative
voice
Each of us has a self-critic in himself. This comes in
the form of the inner voice. It watches us and our actions and likes to
comment. Sometimes loud, sometimes less noisy.
We all have an inner voice that reminds us of our
limitations, our fears, which reflect all the criticisms we have heard so often
in childhood and youth. Stand up to this inner self-criticism and give yourself
a jerk. Remember that you decide and not that voice that expresses so many
accumulated, toxic experiences.
Our inner critic can be very strict as it often provokes
feelings of guilt, but you can face it and be courageous by remembering that he
is no more than someone who is constantly repeating this news from your
childhood. Stand up to it and make this inner voice mute. This is why one should
occasionally question that self-critic. For this inner voice often torped us
with negative messages, with reproaches, so we confess their great influence on
our self-confidence and thus on our self-assurance.
This power of our self-critic is often already characterized
by our environment during childhood. For example, if a child is continually
confronted with accusations and negative criticism by his parents, the
self-critic also develops in this form. And this usually has an influence on us
for a lifetime.
3- Avoid Negative
People
You are the average of the people you spend most of your
time with. If your environment consists of ambivalent people, you will lose your
ambitions. If your friends are mediocres, you will become one. If your friends
are bullies, you will soon become one. This is how it works. The people around
us have great influence on us more than we are aware of.
Surrounding yourself with inspiring people is therefore an
important step away from the negativity. You need friends who have a positive
attitude to life. That colors on you and they make it easier for you to be
positive.
I recommend that you question your relationships. If you are
with someone that pull you down or makes you feel bad about yourself, it high
time to let them go.
4- Transform Your
Weaknesses into Strengths.
Transforming a weakness into strengths requires a certain
degree of creativity, but it is possible. In addition, it makes it easier for
you to find new, incredible opportunities. Remember that every mistake, every
difficulty and every obstacle we encounter can be a great avenue that
can bring us new opportunities and lessons.
Analyze your weaknesses, discover your fears, and change
your attitude. Only so do you free yourself from the shackles that keep your
wings bound.
5- Do Not Compare
Yourself To Others
We tend to compare ourselves with other people. We compare
jobs, income, cars, attractiveness, relationships, intelligence, courage and
much more. Comparisons give us
orientation in a complicated world. We want to know where we stand.
But I've learned that comparisons are unhealthy. They make
us unhappy, load up feelings of guilt and gnaw at our self-confidence. There is
always someone who has more money or wealth and is more attractive or
courageous than you.
We only see this one aspect and feel inferior. But a person
consists of more than one facet. If we compare ourselves, then please with all
facets. This gives a much more balanced picture. But it would be even better to
focus on ourselves. For self-esteem comes only from ourselves
6– Motivate yourself
You do not need anyone to motivate you, to improve your
mood, or to remind you of what you can do. A little help does not hurt, but you
should learn to be self-sufficient and emotionally independent. All you need to
hear; you can say it to yourself in front of the mirror.
Instead of treating yourself badly, start treating yourself
with tenderness and hope. Get positive and optimistic messages to help you,
because there is nothing better than speaking positively into yourself. We human
beings need incentives that make us face the adversities of everyday life,
and we often need to seek that within ourselves. When we are
motivated we become more open and able to develop and allow ourselves to
higher levels of learning, where we improve skills and competences and
that brings us closer to our desires.
7 – Change your thinking
The first thing you should do is believe that you can change
the way you think and consequently change the way you feel and act. It is
largely related to how you can accept, monitor, regulate and create what you
think. You have the ability to decide what you will or will not accept and follow
what appears in your mind.
The way to change your negative thinking to positive
thinking is so simple and basic that you will be amazed at the effectiveness. It is important to know our thoughts,
for they influence how we feel, act, our physical reactions and
motivations. If the interpretation of life event is wrong, we may have
negative thoughts and dysfunctional behaviors. For you to see “light" at
the end of the tunnel changing the way of thinking in order to be able to flow
through situations in a more efficient way, without wasting time and energy
giving a confused emotional and focusing on what really needs to be made to
achieve your goals.
And that's when I discovered that by making only one change
in my way of thinking, modifying my thoughts, changing the way I see the world
and the things around me, everything in my life would change, and to my
surprise for much better than I imagined.
8- Discover your real
potential
One of the motives why many people do not believe in
themselves is that they cannot pursue their restlessness and cannot develop
their passions or have done so depending on the approval of others. Get rid of
these limitations and find out what your talents are, discover what your real
strength lies in.
Embark on the adventure of doing what you have always wanted
to do and not having to start with the idea you once had or to realize the plan
you always dreamed of, but you never succeeded. Discover your qualities, your
talents, your light pages and start expanding them. The great truth is that if
we do not exploit our potential, we will not be able to discover our true
abilities, and also, what we are capable of accomplishing in our life. The curious
thing is that the vast majority of people are not aware of their potential, and
for this reason they never explore it. Constant learning is a way that can help
you explore more and more of your potential. People who achieve results are
always looking to learn something new, so they can apply innovative concept in
their lives.
And because they are in constant search, they end up
exposing themselves to a greater number of experiences, compared to the
majority, who do not make any effort to learn something new.
The more experiences we have – especially through learning
the more we can explore our potential in other areas, whether in our personal
or professional life, thus raising our self-esteem to the fullest.
