Leave: To go away from a place
Cleave to join two things, to fix and fasten things together, to adhere, stick and cling, or to remain loyal or faithful to someone.
Marriage is said to be for men not boys and a man should be able to take actions and make decision on his own, one of this action is leaving you parents. It is mandatory by scripture when two people marry they must separate from their parent, this does not mean leaving them dramatically no, it means you become you own boss, you no longer live under their authority and control. The leaving process is in two forms, leaving emotionally and physically.
Leaving physically. Genesis 12:1The Lord had said to Abram, "Leave your country, your people and your father's household and go to the land I will show you. The lord said to father Abraham leave you fathers house, your relatives and your country. Father Abraham left with his wife, wealth, slaves and everything he acquired was taking with him Genesis 12:55He took his wife Sarai, his nephew Lot, all the possessions they had accumulated and the people they had acquired in Haran, and they set out for the land of Canaan, and they arrived there.This how the leaving process must be. Couple must be ready and willing to leave their parents no matter how comfortable it was. You must be ready to face life's journey as couple. You have to carry everything that belong to you as father Abraham did and go away from the place you used to call home and start your own home elsewhere. This decision is sometimes very difficult especially when things are not that well financial .This situation should not be an impediment, it is rather to your benefit to go away.
Leave any other relationship. May be before you met your wife or husband you had other amorous relation or you were attached to a particular male or female friend. All amorous relationships should be broken and any other should be secondary except Christ.
Parents are to encourage their children in this leaving process they should stop unnecessary and unwarranted interference into the marital issues of their children and also stop being over protective. Their duty is to advice and give counsel and it is to the discretion of the couple to work with the advice or not.
Leaving emotional. Emotion is part of a person's character that consists of their feeling as opposed to their thoughts. The bond between a child and parent is sometimes strong that it hard to let go, especial the parent find it as their duty to nest their children even when they are old and married. From the day, you got married as a young man or woman you no longer live under the influence of your parent. Therefore you no longer look for comfort, love, happiness and joy in you parent but in your spouse. Never compare the love, care, comfort and happiness you received from you parent to you spouse, you have to leave all this emotions and start on a fresh page of life.
May be you had a father or mother who treated you badly and it has had some negative effect on you, which has made you to have this negative attitude or some kind of phobia for the opposite sex, like hatred and fear. Forget the past never remember nor take thoughts of them but ask God to forgive and help you to forgive and forget the pain and discard every terrible past and hope for the best. Please holding onto the past will rewind and wear you out, come down from that clef of fear and hatred and open up to your spouse.
Cleaving
Cleaving as explained early on as adhering to, stick or cling to something and to remain faithful or loyal to a person. As we know that marriage is a legal and binding commitment or covenant between a man and a woman executed before witness. This process involve four faces which is the legal, physically, emotionally and the spiritually. We should be mindful of what is going on in the world today where men are marring men and woman are also doing like wise. These activities are not marriage, no matter what law or certificate that was eschewed or the witnesses that were present but this is rather perversion and wickedness. The lord will punish those who engage in this animalistic behavior. Let do what is right and we will be fruitful.
A man will leave the parent and be jointed to the wife and they will become one flesh. [Ezekiel 37:7]7So I prophesied as I was commanded. And as I was prophesying, there was a
noise, a rattling sound, and the bones came together, bone to bone. I looked, and tendons and flesh appeared on them and skin covered them, but there was no breath in them. From this scripture, we could see that the bone were perfectly arranged and jointed to each other strongly. The bones arranged to form a perfect and unique human figure. Every bone went to it rightful place, the was no instance were a bone went to a wrong place. The bones adhered strongly to each other to form a very compact and coordinated structure. so cleaving is being perfectly arranged and fitted together to form a unique but single unit in other to show lover, care and give support to each other in the image of God as husband and wife, yet this is beyond the understanding of men. Get details on my up coming post on Cleaving.
